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Attachment Style Quiz

Choose the statement in each question that feels most true to you in close relationships.


Respect it and trust the relationship
Worry they're pulling away from me
Feel relieved to have space too
Feel both anxious and relieved at the same time

Feel comfortable being both close and independent
Crave closeness and fear abandonment
Prefer keeping some emotional distance
Want closeness but fear getting hurt

Talk it through calmly and openly
Fear the relationship is at risk
Withdraw or shut down
Want to talk but end up pulling away

Trust and openness happen naturally
I get frequent reassurance
I still have plenty of independence
Honestly, closeness feels both wanted and a little scary

I rarely worry much about this
Being abandoned or unloved
Losing my independence
Getting hurt if I let someone in

Welcome it naturally
Want even more closeness
Feel the urge to create some distance
Want it, but also feel like pulling away

Communicating directly and calmly
Seeking frequent reassurance
Rarely voicing them, preferring to be self-reliant
Struggling to express them consistently

Generally felt secure and trusting
Often felt anxious about how the other person felt about me
Kept some emotional walls up
Had a push-pull pattern of wanting closeness and fearing it

About the Attachment Style Quiz

Attachment theory suggests that the bonds we formed early in life shape how we approach closeness, trust, and conflict in our adult relationships. This quiz looks at four common attachment styles — Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant — based on how you typically think, feel, and behave in close relationships.

Here's what each style tends to look like:

  • Secure: Comfortable with both intimacy and independence. Secure individuals trust their relationships and communicate needs directly.

  • Anxious: Craves closeness and reassurance, and tends to worry about being abandoned or not loved enough.

  • Avoidant: Values independence highly and tends to keep some emotional distance, sometimes withdrawing under stress.

  • Fearful-Avoidant: Wants closeness but also fears getting hurt, resulting in a push-pull dynamic between seeking and avoiding intimacy.

Your attachment style isn't a life sentence — it's a pattern that developed from your experiences, and it can shift over time, especially with self-awareness and secure relationships. Recognizing your own style, and that of the people close to you, can help explain recurring relationship dynamics and give you a starting point for building healthier, more secure connections.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are the four attachment styles?

The four attachment styles are Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant, describing different patterns of how people approach closeness and trust in relationships.

How many questions are in the Attachment Style Quiz?

The quiz has 8 questions about how you typically think, feel, and behave in close relationships.

Can my attachment style change over time?

Yes. Attachment styles develop from early experiences but can shift over time, especially with self-awareness and secure relationships.



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